I don’t claim to be an expert in matters of the heart, however I have been in a long distance relationship for over two years. Long distance relationships get a lot of bad press and I myself have been on the receiving end of some rather odd expressions when I explain that my boyfriend and I live in separate countries…
There are definitely plenty of down sides, and it can be upsetting that you can’t just pop over to give your partner a hug; because you know planes, airports, check in and all that. However, more often than not I realise that I am so lucky to be in the relationship that I’m in.
So if you are wondering if your relationship can go the distance, take a look at my ten reasons why it is going to work.
- You get butterflies every time you see each other. When you are in a long distance relationship you will find yourself waiting in arrivals with butterflies in your stomach and a big silly grin on your face. Arrivals is also pretty much the only place that public displays of affection are 100% acceptable.
- Time together is more special. When time with your loved one is few and far between, you will make the most of every second. This means going on day trips to touristy places you would never normally bother going to; and even just chilling out is something that you don’t take for granted.
- You learn to just let things go. When time together is so precious you really don’t want to spend it arguing, so you forgive each other quickly and don’t waste time stressing about the little things.
- Absence really does make the heart grow fonder. It has been scientifically proven that couples in long distance relationships have greater levels of intimacy and more meaningful interactions. That’s good enough for me.
- You trust each other completely. If you are in a long distance relationship and you don’t trust each other you are going to find out pretty quickly, because it isn’t going to last very long. You have to accept that you won’t know what they are doing or who they are with all the time, which leaves no room for insecurities.
- You have your own lives. Living in a different area, country or continent to your loved one means that you both have separate groups of friends, hobbies and lives. I believe having your own space and independence is far healthier than couples who live in each other’s pockets.
- Whatsapp, Skype, Snapchat… the list goes on. Technology is a magical thing. As a child I imagined that one day we would all have telephones that allowed us to see who we were talking to… and now we do. Just because you aren’t physically together doesn’t mean that you can’t keep in contact as much as you like… and all you need is an internet connection, so no nasty surprises when you open your telephone bill.
- You will always have something to talk about. Because you don’t talk constantly or know everything about each other’s days you will find that there is always plenty to catch up on.
- You know that you are both really into each other. I am not going to beat about the bush, long distance relationships can be hard, but the silver lining is that no one in their right mind would enter into one if they were not 100% committed to the other person. Knowing that the person you are with feels exactly the same about you as you do about them is pretty special.
- If you can survive this you know you can survive anything. It may not feel like it now, but the situation you are in won’t be forever. If it is meant to be, then sooner or later one of you will make the move so you can be together, and you know that when that eventually happens it is going to be a breeze!